Why Men Need to Spend Time Away From Women To Be With Other Men
We’ve grown adept at living in a modern world where women are everywhere men are..
In the workplace, in the home, often in the car, and definitely in the social media we consume.
At face value, it seems harmless. Some would even argue it’s good for the world..
But there is something profoundly troubling about this way of living..
I believe it’s eroding the very foundation of masculinity that our civilization was built on.
For all of history, men have spent time away from women to be alone with their fellow men..
It’s more than tradition or “men’s groups.”
It’s a primordial calling we must not ignore.
We are not designed to spend as much time as we currently do with women..
We have been intelligently designed to march shoulder to shoulder with our brothers as we go off to war, or to support each other hand in hand as we hunt and fish.
We are meant to share hardship and triumph around a fire.
This is literally how we are built..
We are the heavy lifters, the hunters, and the protectors of society.
But many men in the modern world have lost this.
They’ve become overly soft, disconnected from their natural edge.
That’s what happens when we blend men and women together without honoring their differences.
Iron sharpens iron, and strong men sharpen other men.
That’s one of the beauties of being with a group of only men.
We call each other forward..
We don’t let each other fall short..
We test and hold each other accountable.
This is especially true in nature, where keeping your brother strong can mean keeping yourself alive.
Imagine defending your camp from a hungry grizzly bear, hanging off the side of a mountain while being belayed, or paddling through fast-moving rapids with a partner..
You want to know you can count on your brother when the adrenaline is pumping and it really matters.
Ironically, these dangerous moments are the ones that make us feel most alive.
Most modern men are missing that feeling, the feeling of aliveness, because they’re so deeply entangled in the world of the feminine.
The craziest part is that even though so many men spend their lives trying to please the feminine, they’re miserable.
Think about it:
From the beginning, we learned to please our mothers as we were sucking her tits.
Then came feminine babysitters and teachers. We were taught not to upset them, not to rock the boat, not to be “too boyish.”
And most of us ended up with feminine partners who reinforce the same patterns..
No wonder so many men are frustrated; they’ve spent their whole lives being told not to be who they are.
Men have been missing a certain energy in their lives.
An energy that only comes from being with other men..
You can’t find it in the modern feminine world..
If you’ve ever played on a men’s sports team or sat in a men’s circle, you’ve felt it.
It’s hard to describe, but it shows up as permission to be who you truly are without ever being “too much.”
You can be, do, say, or feel whatever you want, and it’s welcomed and celebrated.
That energy is medicine.
Without it, men feel constricted, frustrated, and often take it out on their feminine partners.
And let’s face it, some things are simply inappropriate in the presence of the feminine..
That’s why men need time away with other men.
To clear it out of their system, to reconnect and reset themself.
I guide groups of men out into the wilderness..
When they return, they carry a felt sense of freedom back into their homes.
Their whole community is better because that man is better kept.
If you’re a man, I highly recommend finding time for men-only activities.
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