The Reset Most Men Never Give Themselves
The reset your burnout really needs..
Most men won’t give themselves the reset they deserve..
Most men delay taking care of themselves until something forces them to..
Either a health scare or the fantasy of “one day, when I finally make it.”
There’s a difference between being tired and being burnt out..
Tiredness is solved with rest. A good sleep, a slow weekend, and you’re back.
Burnout runs much deeper.. it’s a numbness that no amount of sleep can fix.
A few decades ago, men weren’t burning out the way we do now.
Work was still hard, but life had texture; there was community, space, and purpose woven through the day.
Now we live in a world where everything hums at full speed, and the noise never really stops.
Mild burnout shows up as that quiet dull ache in the soul..
the loss of excitement and aliveness.
The sense that life has become one big to-do list. In its most severe form, burnout can crush a man.
I’ve seen it..
Relationships end, health scares, and in some cases, death.
In Japan, they have a word for it:
“karoshi.”
— It literally means death from overworking.
But you don’t have to die for burnout to be killing you..
Most men try to fix burnout by adding more: more money, a new car, another vacation.
I get it, I used to think the same.
For me, it was the Tesla.
I thought owning it would feel like freedom.
It didn’t.
It was high tech, sexy, fast…
But mostly just another screen to scroll.
The answer isn’t always more. Sometimes it’s less.
We’ve become a culture addicted to overstimulation..
A hit of dopamine from the screen, the ritualized upgrade to the newest iPhone, the vacation taken more for the photo than the experience.
We chase freedom while burying ourselves in mental debt, mistaking consumption for meaning.
Amongst all this noise, something has gone missing.
The man himself.
The more we add, the further we drift from our natural state.
The more we try to fill the void, the larger it grows.
Think about it like this: you’re cleaning the sink, but the drain’s clogged. The water keeps rising, so you scrub harder, more frantically. You forget the simplest move is to turn off the tap.
That’s what most men need to do..
Shut it off.
Step outside their current reality.
Spend time in quiet places that don’t need anything from you.
Let yourself be still long enough to remember what you actually feel.
Sometimes the most important work a man can do is step away for a while.
Solitude is the solution. The silence reconnects the man to himself.
So the real question isn’t can you reset..?
It’s will you give yourself permission to?